How long can you wait for the right moment to jump in your success spiral? People mostly ignore how their career or social situation do affect their own mindset and vice-versa. Often they follow the flow or someone’s lead. And yet, they wonder where are they going to land in the future or how did they land in such a situation. Isn’t this absurde?
Suppose you engage a lawyer to help you win a trial. You have no clue about the arguments that will be used in your favour, but you trust the lawyer to do his job as he is getting paid for it. He will use as much information as he can obtain from you, but those will be cold facts, nothing to do with empathy. Perhaps you don’t even expect any. To sum up, we have: a lawyer that just sells his services and a client that is just awaiting for an end-result. Now imagine that things do not turn so easily out and despite the arguments used in your favour, the judge dismissed you. The lawyer no longer disputes the decision or he might dispute it but most probably with the same exact arguments… And the end result is still a loss…
Why did this end up so? What’s wrong with this?
There is nothing wrong with the lawyer, nor with the situation you are in. It just “turned out” so, the vicious spiral of events. But it all started with your position towards the situation. You trusted the lawyer just because you thought money was guaranteeing your success. So on the one hand, you measured your success in advance with a specific amount of money, hence you already put yourself a limitation. You would make no move from that position until you get a result. On the other hand, the lawyer behaved in the exactly same way. He would not fight more for you as you had not asked for empathy but rather for a professionalism.
Put simply, both behaved the same way – they trusted the standard flow. But ask yourself the question: is your situation standard? Can a standard situation ever even exist?
Diplomatos’ answer is “NO”.
A standard is a “Stand Hard” behaviour, a hard coded reference that rallies opinions, makes people want to reproduce it or, in other words, a phenomenon that you want to repeat. This is nothing but a spiral. A repeating phenomenon, a karma wheel – call this the way you prefer – this is again a trap you won’t escape from. It is made of a perceptive experience you are getting attached/addicted to and that you want to reproduce.
Thus, standard patterns and behaviours are just another illusions fooling you in your way to success. Einstein qualified insanity as “doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results”. The most important word here is “EXPECTING”, meaning that you do desire something but you resign acting for it.
Standard means “Attachement to something”, being tied to a model, an experience or a situation. Standard means “Spiral” – the one you cannot handle. Standard is comforting, so you trust it. Standard process, standard jobs, standard books, standard people, standard everything. There is no difference between this and a black hole’s gravitational vortex attracting into itself the flow of events.
It does not mean you have to be different at all cost or that you must distinguish yourself from others. It means that if you want to stop being tortured by this vortex of events you simply must go away from them and start gravitating around other things.
There is just one option to succeed in this adventure: dive into the vortex, understand the depth of the problem (become aware) and start immediately propulsing yourself to a differnt orbit.
The Successful Spiral
The best ever way to create a successful spiral of events in your life (both professionaly and personaly) is to “anticipate upon movements” – or abbreviated A.U.M. . Let’s define this methodology in details.
To anticipate means to “take before”, i.e. take care of something before an event happens. It also means to act before, or to think before. This is the easiest part actually. Wonder why? Because Past and Future are the most available things to humans. The past can be recorded and the future can be forecasted. The Present remains the most difficult thing in the world. Hence, you need to either look back or forth and take into account the arriving consequences of your current undertaking.
Upon means “over”, “depending on”. This is a very important term as it indicates you the importance of the Present events that are effectively taking place in the “Now”. Few people are able to reconcile the current situation with the past situation. Just because this requires skillful priority management: ability to weigh the past events’ consequences versus the current difficulties. Surprisingly, the key here is your ABILITY TO RELAX! Yes, the latter word has its sense here. By enabling a relaxed behaviour you let yourself easily distinguish what’s more important and what’s less. There exists no other way to better perform the events priorization tasks.
Movements are the so-called events happening in the perceptible reality. Essentially, everything you can smell, see, hear, taste, feel, understand, think, imagine etc… – are the movements of the great wheel or spiral of events you are being mixed in. Your thoughts cannot appear out of nothing, no single thing happens randomly, it is becaused you are in a cyclic whirlpool of events that you come across various perceptions and thoughts as if you bumped to an asteroïd turing on the same orbit. Thus, pay attention to the movements, signs, everything that can help you navigate your way into the new exit.